Jamye Waxman
Pervartistry
April 7th, 2007
RELATIONSHIFTS: So much of our sexuality is built upon the words we use to do the deeds we do. And then, even more of how we do it is based on the games we play with the people we love, like or want to screw. Which might be why the wise woman behind PervArtistry has combined the two, creating a game that focuses around the dirty words that describe the acts of love, lust and lewdness.
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Designer Vagina
March 18th, 2007
RELATIONSHIFTS:When I first read the phrase “to be feminine is to have a tight, well-toned vagina” I wanted to tighten my fingers around someone else’s tight, well-toned neck, preferably the someone who wrote the stupid fucking phrase in the first place. In a country where thin is always in and self esteem is, for a lot of women, lower than the “you must be this tall to ride” sign, it’s never a good time for some half wit to start spewing his stupid beliefs about what is and isn’t beautiful or feminine, when feminine is not for any one person, or website, to decide.
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Mediocre Sex
February 23rd, 2007
RELATIONSHIFTS: Who says women can’t get no satisfaction?
Anita Clayton and Robin Cantor-Cook, that’s who. In their new book, Satisfaction: Women, Sex and the Quest for Intimacy (Ballentine/Random House) they reveal this shocking finding that, gasp, hold breath, let it out and then hold chest in disbelief, lots of women have mediocre sex lives because women are trying too hard to have careers and lives and therefore they’re not staying home enough to get the sex they need to have the sex life they want. First of all, my mom was a stay at home mom, and while I can’t say how hard it is to “raise” children, I can say that it’s probably a heck of a lot more difficult then it is to do a myriad of other jobs. And that women who are home a lot are just as tired, especially if there are kids involved, then women who aren’t.
“Almost” Last Minute Valentine’s Gifts (for those who care)
February 9th, 2007
RELATIONSHIFTS: I have to say I totally don’t give a flying seal on roller skates about Valentines Day (whatever a flying seal on roller skates might look like, I’m thinking pretty uncomfortable at least thats’ my guess) but it is almost here, and if you are into giving a little something something on the one day a year that you shouldn’t show extra affection just because Hallmark told you too, well then here are some last minute ways to get laid sucker! Well, possibly laid. I can’t guarantee anything, but these type of things, they sometimes do help.
Are you a panty sniffer?
January 27th, 2007
RELATIONSHIFTS: There are a lot of things we shouldn’t sniff but often do. Either out of sheer stupidity as children (think glue) or out of sheer stupidity as adults (think pepper spray), and while I’ve never sniffed the former, and if you haven’t sniffed the latter, don’t - we’re all guilty of smelling something we probably shouldn’t have smelled, or something we wish we hadn’t smelled (think someone else’s farts).
The G Shot
January 19th, 2007
RELATIONSHIFTS: While I’m not out of the loop, this time I was quite obviously not “in” it, and when I recently found out about the G Shot, a shot that plumps up the volume in your urethral sponge, I was both saddened and appalled. All I can think of to say is “be afraid, be very afraid,” well, really that’s not all I can think of to say, but it’s a start. It’s not that I don’t think that a woman who really wants to feel her G Spot shouldn’t find a way to do so, it’s just that the G Shot is so not the way to go, and so not cool.
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Have you had your orgasm today?
December 22nd, 2006
RELATIONSHIFTS: Don’t forget to have your global orgasm for change today. Happy Solstice and Happy Holidays!
Now, onto other musings, like why does sex sell? Is it because we just want to see what everybody else looks like doing it, or is it because we’re fascinated with anything “nasty”? Is it because we’re all voyeurs, - dirty, filthy peepers who really like to see other naked bodies in motion? Maybe it’s because we’re hoping to sharpen our skills and pick up a technique or two? Perhaps it’s a little of a lot of things.
Orgasmic Peace?
December 15th, 2006
RELATIONSHIFTS: On Friday, December 22nd two anti-war protestors hope that you’ll do something sexy to help put an end to war. Instead of forcibly making a change through combat and killing, their hoping to gradually change the world by coming. Alone or with a partner, the moral of their story is a happy ending. That’s right, Donna Sheehan and Paul Reffell are asking you to join their orgasmic revolution.
The M Word
December 8th, 2006
RELATIONSHIFTS: Masturbation. It’s the first sex act that we discover, whether or not we actually realize we’re doing it. It’s often the first time we connect the ideas of pleasurable touch with something we can provide for ourselves. It’s a spiritual awakening, in the sense that when we become one with our pleasure, we understand a little bit more about who we are. So this week, let’s not talk about the fact that Britney Spears has gone crotchless, or argue over how many glasses of wine a pregnant woman should be able to drink in a week - instead, lets briefly touch on masturbation.
An Allergic Reaction to Sex
December 1st, 2006
RELATIONSHIFTS: In keeping with the spirit of sexual knowledge - here’s one to grow on. If you needed another excuse for having safer sex, or if you are seriously thinking something might be wrong with how you feel after sex, it’s time to shed some light on the latest (well, it’s over three weeks old now, so I’m slightly ahead and behind the times) medical/sexual discovery. Five percent of the female population shares an allergy so intimate that it’s been tucked away and shoved under sheets - until now. Well, until it was recently brought out of the bedroom, thanks to the annual meeting of the American College of Allergy, Asthma and Immunology a few weeks back.